I was lying in bed awake last night, looking through my window, and I noticed the stars and how big I know they are and how small they seem to us which got me to thinking about several things, how the universe works, how people work and most importantly, about perspective.

“What I need is perspective. The illusion of depth, created by a frame, the arrangement of shapes on a flat surface. Perspective is necessary. Otherwise there are only two dimensions. Otherwise you live with your face squashed up against a wall, everything a huge foreground, of details, close-ups, hairs, the weave of the bedsheet, the molecules of the face. Your own skin like a map, a diagram of futility, crisscrossed with tiny roads that lead nowhere. Otherwise you live in the moment. which is not where I want to be.” ― Margaret Atwood

My Friday started off pretty great as per usual with my morning workout and then I got into an argument with someone I care for. I said something and something was said back. I thought about how irrelevant the arguing was and looking back now, it’s like one of those movie scenes: in a setting of an empty coffee shop, it begins with a clear picture where there’s yelling and you see one person screaming and the picture blurs, the sound fades but you can still see the person yelling while the other one, remaining silent, starts to drift from the moment..

In the grand scheme of it all, little, petty, insignificant things —negative things— they don’t matter and they aren’t worth our time. It led me to think about other negative things, like the judgement people pass on, for instance, a single mother, without a husband and two different kids by two different fathers.. when in reality, she’s just trying her best to do with what she’s been given and she’s gone through enough life to realize that she’s in this alone, but she’s not. She’s got two mouths to feed aside from her own and two little boys to raise that she hopes will grow to be nothing like their fathers. To the people passing judgment, it seems so insignificant to sit there and criticize or devalue her worth as a woman but they do it with the normalization of drinking a glass of water. I decided a long time ago that I never want to be that kind of person, to anyone, regardless of what they’ve done.

I’ve experienced life through the lens of the person being judged everyday for most of my life, I still experience that, and there’s always a fear that I will continue to be judged  for things I have no control over. And this fear, all from knowing that not everyone has a grasp on perspective. The lessons I’ve learned and all that I’ve experienced continues to allow me to grow as a person.

A (what I would consider) friend once responded to my question, “how judgmental would you say you are?” with, “it’s not so much how judgmental you are, it’s your ability to separate that from the person enough to see past those judgments” and that resonated with me.

What I hope you think about after reading this.. is perspective. Before you judge someone, before you feed into negativity, before you walk towards something terrible or away from something great. Look at it with perspective, for a glass of water is just another glass of water to you, but a glass of water to a struggling single mother in a small corner of the earth, in a third world country, that glass of water is beautiful because to her, it could be the difference between life and death and that in itself is a beauty that many people take for granted until it is thrown into perspective of just how short it can be. So, be kind.

“I never saw an ugly thing in my life: for let the form of an object be what it may – light, shade, and perspective will always make it beautiful” – John Constable

Best Regards,





Do you ever wonder what drives the universe? The people we attract? The events that are called into our lives?

I do..

I’ve always believed in a force greater than any one person, moment, or idea. I believe that individually we have energies, vibrations, and I believe that we resonate both with each other and with the universe on a deeper level than we may realize. We are constantly questioning “why me?” when something bad happens, or we complain about our lives being too boring when nothing happens, and then when good things happen we’re just constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop… and then it does. I feel like it’s all happening because of the energy we put out. It calls out to the energy that most closely resembles it. We have all been through experiences, good, bad, scary, amazing. Right now I want you to throw out all the bad that has happened to you in the last week, month, or year. Take a minute, think about a moment when you were happy, I mean truly happy. The kind of happiness that makes you stop to think, “I wish I could just be here in this moment forever and stay this happy, this carefree, forever..”, if forever were long enough. You should have it by now, that moment. I hope it made you feel something.. alive, safe even. I believe moments like those are truly rare gifts that the universe gives us as a chance to take that truly blissful moment, absorb the positive that came out of it, and recycle it back into good energy that searches the ends of the universe to bring us back the next moment to match. I believe those moments are our rewards for keeping the positive flow of energy going. Of course we are tested, there have been and will be moments, tribulations we face, that want to counteract the happiness we can have at any given time; The goal is to have so many happy moments that the few bad ones don’t feel quite as terrible. So that’s my goal, to water down the bad moments with the good ones. I hope to have at least one really happy memory I can always think about when life tries to hold me back, drag me down, and tear me apart– a memory I can think back to that causes all of my problems to go away, even if only long enough for me to just refocus and get a handle on the idea that I can control what happens to me and what I call into my life. The moments, the kinds of people, and the examples I set for those who observe me.

“The goal is to have so many happy moments that the few bad ones don’t feel quite as terrible.”

I crave nothing more than to be a good person, to align with the highest possible version of myself that I can possibly be. I hope to turn the bad moments into speed bumps and chalk them out to lessons and I hope to turn the good moments into memories that will become my strength in times of doubt. We all need moments like this and I hope you’ve discovered yours. If you have you’ll know, if you haven’t.. you will. Give it some time. I have so much love for people who want to be better and I hope that all of you hold at least a small bit of love for me.

Best Regards,

Bombshell Boyfriend